Know Your Worth
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Dear College Girl,
Know your worth and add tax.
“But what if they think I’m doing too much?” “People think I’m intimidating.” “I don’t talk about my hustles and passions because that’s how I lose friends.” “I don’t speak up for myself because I hate confrontation.”
These are all words of a person who is afraid of showing up as a light. These are the words of a person who is afraid to show up as the best. These are the words of a person who has grown accustomed to showing up as average. You, my friend, are not afraid. Long as the days where you have to minimize who you are for the comfort of others. If those around you feel small when you stand tall, it may be time to change your circle. if you are ashamed of showing off your gifts, it is time to rewire how you view yourself.
When you can show up as yourself unapologetically, you are indirectly saying: “I am aware of who I am and I am comfortable in that. I am aware of my gifts and I do not hesitate to share them. I understand that I make some people comfortable but that just means they are not meant to be in my life long-term.” Someone who understands and knows their worth is okay with the fact that they will outshine people. They are okay with being the best. They are okay with confronting unnecessary comments. They are unafraid of addressing conflict.
Someone who understands their worth will never settle.
Have you ever been with a group of people who were supposed to be your friends? They started discussing weekend plans amongst each other then hit you with the, “You can come too if you want.” What do you mean I can come if I want? I just won’t show up if I have such a questionable presence. Do not settle where your value is questioned. Any person who questions you does not trust you, your strength, your gifts, and your value. You have to remember that if someone else does not see themselves as the full package, no person or good thing in their life will ever be good enough. Thus, it is important to only surround yourself with those who never settle on themselves.
How do I respond to people who make me feel bad for not settling? How do I respond to people who tell me I should accept what I get?
The simple answer is you don’t. You will never see eye to eye with someone who does not see life the way you do. You can choose to walk away or explain yourself. As someone who is adamant about letting people be who they are and learning through mistakes, I will always advocate to let them be and go silent. People learn through distance and isolation.
College Girl, whether you are a sophomore, junior, or senior it is never too late to step into your power. It is never too late to walk in your worth. It is never too late to show up as your best self and shift your space. You are the jack of all trades and it is okay to sit in that. So often, people are made to shy away from their power and their light. Hiding is a distraction and not fair to your stored potential. Be empowered to know what it feels like to set boundaries. Enjoy the feeling of being a free spirit and basking in your gifts.
You are IT. Know your worth and add tax.
Sincerely,
Pitra