Your Energy Is Currency
Your Energy Is Currency Video on YouTube. Link attached to photo.
Hey, College Girl!
Have you ever felt like, “Ugh, I’m too grown for this!” or “Why do the same kind of people come into my life?!”
Honey, me too. For a long time, I always wondered why I was the one with no hidden agenda or motives towards people but I kept on encountering people with those intentions towards me. This is not to say that every person I encountered was evil, had negative intentions towards me, or even meant to hurt me. It is to say, though, that I started to wonder why I allowed that aura to enter my space. Truth be told, no matter how good or bad of a person you are, it is crucial to have those encounters so that you understand how to maneuver as you go up in life. Other times, either you are meant to help them or they are meant to help you mature.
While that is true, it also goes to say that we can choose to deal with ignorant behaviors or distance ourselves. I don’t know about you college girl, but one thing I am not afraid to do is say goodbye. This does not mean walking away firstly without expressing how you feel is always the solution, but it does go to say that you can choose to stick it through while your cup is empty or fill your cup and resume if the connection is meant to be. Now I know everyone loves to talk about romantic relationships but this ain’t cupid shuffle. So if you need love advice, I am not your girl haha. What I can give you though, is advice on how to navigate connections that no longer serve your highest good.
Have you ever had a product that was only provided online and not in-store? No matter how many times you went to Walmart they still never have that product you were looking for. But you still go see if they have it just in case? Why do you still go knowing they don’t have what you want, girl? You can not continue to invest in spaces that do not invest in you! Why do you get mad at others for not carrying the high-level qualities you know they can not provide? Maybe it is time to enter spaces and connections that challenge you.
One of the people’s greatest fears is having a circle of high-level individuals who are more successful, smart, and with a greater network than you. Not only is there an intimidation factor, but an availability factor. You indeed make time for the things and people you like. However, the key words are make time which is short for I am not always available but I will give you the best I can. Express gratitude for the moments you do have with those who make time for you, and do not exceed boundaries. Vice versa. Set your boundaries, limit your time with others on unnecessary conversations and activities, and genuinely care about and support those around you. Do not take what is not yours and do not give what is to be kept for you. Your energy is one of those. Reserve it for those who are willing to reciprocate or express gratitude.
Well, how do I do that?
Firstly, you can ask for more time for yourself. Those who love and respect you will give you the time you need to find yourself and your sanity. If they in any way feel like you making yourself a priority is detrimental to you or your friendship, they do not respect you and benefit from what they can get from you. They also may simply have no life. It is okay for you to isolate for some time to understand your surroundings. It is okay to isolate yourself to spend time discovering your passions, new hobbies, and your career path. It is okay to meet new people and learn new languages. It is okay to keep your life private.
Secondly, another option is to simply go ghost. Some individuals have lived such toxic lives that their only way to understand I need space is through abandonment. Providing context clues does not work for everyone no matter how gently. Do not leave with anger or bitterness but with love and understanding for who they are as an individual. You are not against them. You are redirecting in life. Remember when we were teens and our parents would instruct us to not do something? We insisted we were right. Today, we know they were right for telling us no because we had the mind of a child. Same as now with your connections—they may not understand today, but they will tomorrow and they may even thank you. Sometimes, all it takes is the crutch we were relying on, to disappear to understand its purpose.
It is okay to reserve your energy because it is currency.
Sincerely,
Pitra